| Dear Mabel:
I wrote to you like two months ago but I haven’t seen an answer yet and that’s why I’m writing again. I’ve known this man for 17 years. In fact he was my teacher. Back then, I was in a relationship and he was married. We became friends and he confided in me that his marriage wasn’t going well, right at the time when I was breaking up with my boyfriend.
Three years ago, we started dating, though he never actually got divorced, but I never really cared much about that: I was sure he loved me and that I played an important role in his life, I even met his child. But two years later, his attitude changed, he didn’t call that much and we didn’t date that often, so in spite of my love, I figured the relationship was through and so I told him. But he said it wasn’t, that he loved me, but that a woman from his past had reappeared, with a seven-year-old who she claims is his daughter. Clearly, that changed the situation a lot, for he had to take charge of them. But he claims he loves me. However, I feel we’ve drifted apart, and although I love him, I have tried to break up several times because I’m so depressed... Still, whenever we discuss this, he cries, goes down on his knees and swears he cannot live without me and begs that I don’t leave him and he ends up convincing me. But the truth is he really doesn’t seem interested in me very much, and keeps canceling our dates. Then I take up the discussion again and the story repeats itself.
Mabel, this is driving me crazy, I don’t know what to do. Is he intent on hurting me, or is he just immature and doesn’t know what he wants? My date of birth is 18/03/62 and his 26/11/54. I’m begging you, please send me an answer, my life is so chaotic. I love him but I cannot live like this, but neither can I live without him. I also have problems at work because two of my bosses are harassing me and since I do not respond to them they have become hostile and on top of everything, two weeks ago my mother found out she had breast cancer. I’m so lonely, Mabel, I feel everything is conspiring against me. I’m begging you to help me. Thanks a million in advance.
Rosa
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